Contentment


As I turned a year older last year on the first of july, one word that marked the turning for me was contentment. I found myself meditating on St. Paul’s words in Philippians 4:11, where he says “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances” I felt contentment as the day dawned and I can only describe the feeling as serene, there was no rush to get anything done, no ruffles of any kind, it was just a really peaceful day full of love. A lot of love and a joyful heart. I just couldn’t help but think what if we all felt this way, what a joyful world it would be.

So, what does it mean to be content? One dictionary definition describes it as being in a state of happiness and satisfaction, another describes it as being free from care. Why does contentment elude us a human race? As the picture above depicts, we are living in a loud world where everything is all about getting, going, reaching and taking. There is little or no time for pausing and reflecting. We are being told we need this and that and we need to be here and there so loudly, that we can never take time to just be.

To take time to just be, has become to some a waste of time and it evokes feelings of anxiety. Rest is a word with which they are not familiar, they feel as if they must be doing something every moment of every day. For such people, contentment will always be far-reaching. For others, every and any situation becomes anxiety-ridden moments because of the inability to just be. These ones too, are constantly striving to get someplace, somewhere, somehow and will do so at any cost. For these too, contentment will be far-reaching.

Now, to be content doesn’t mean you don’t strive or that you don’t have goals that you want to achieve, it just means that no matter what is happening around you, you can maintain a sense of happiness and satisfaction, peace and joy. This can only happen when you allow yourself to pause and enjoy quiet moments of reflection. It is surprising what can come out of just being in those quiet moments. Go ahead, take a quiet moment to yourself and just be. You’ll be better for it. Wishing you contentment and bliss in this loud, loud world!

Meet Your Therapist

Lola Sholagbade received her M.A. in Counseling & Spirituality from the University of Ottawa/ Saint Paul University, Ottawa. She is registered with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario for practice in the area of psychotherapy with adults and couples.
She has several years of experience in the treatment of individuals with a wide range of psychological issues, including: depression, anxiety, trauma, interpersonal related problems, loss and grief. She has a special interest in eating disorders, self-esteem/body image issues as well as approaches to post-traumatic stress disorder. Her attitude towards her clients is characterized by respect and acceptance and she perceives the therapeutic relationship as a mutual and cooperative process.
Ms. Sholagbade values diversity and uses her intercultural competencies to provide a safe and appreciative therapeutic environment. Her primary approach to therapy involves cognitive-behavioural therapy, rational-emotive behaviour therapy as well as object relations therapy.

Lola Sholagbade
Psychotherapist, M.A, R.P, C.C.C.

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1What is Psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy is a way to overcome problematic thoughts or behaviours. It addresses personal and interpersonal difficulties and enables an individual, family or couple talk openly and confidentially about their concerns, feelings, thoughts and behaviour with a trained professional.
2Is the service really confidential?
Yes. Everything discussed in therapy is completely confidential with the following exceptions by law:
  • Where you disclose that you are going to kill yourself
  • Where you disclose that you are going to kill/hurt someone else
  • Where you disclose that there are children under the age of 16 being abused
  • Where you disclose that a regulated health care professional is being abusive towards you
  • Where you are involved in a court case and your notes are subpoenaed
3Are the services covered by my health insurance provider?
Psychotherapy by Registered Psychotherapists are increasingly being covered by health insurance providers, however, if “psychotherapy” is not covered, “psychological services” can be covered as the practice is supervised by a Registered Psychologist, Dr. Augustine Meier. Please check with your particular provider and plan for coverage details.
4What is the cost and what methods of payment are acceptable?
Sessions are $135/session. Credit cards (MasterCard, Visa, American Express), Cheques, E-Transfers and Cash are all acceptable forms of payment. Session fees are for 60 minutes = 50 minute session time plus 10 minutes for preparation and documentation of your care. The initial consultation appointment is 90-120 minutes in length to allow for a proper assessment and discussion of your needs.
5Is there telephone and online video counselling?
While face-to-face meeting is best, sometimes circumstances and situations can hinder that. In such situations, therapy can be conducted through Skype, FaceTime or over the phone.