Go With Your Heart

Last night seemed to be a record breaking of sorts in the history of the National Basketball Association (NBA). Last night, basketball fans across the world and all of America celebrated Kobe Bryant’s last game and 20 years of basketball. Last night, all of America and basketball fans world over watched Kobe Bryant go out with a bang!

As I watched, coaches, fellow players, players from other sports spoke highly of Kobe Bryant. They spoke of how he strove for excellence always and how he always went into a game with a winning mindset. As I watched, I heard of his dedication to his trade as well as his determination to be the best at all cost. They spoke of how he gave the game his all, put in the best and expected the best from everyone else because he gave his best first.

Then, there’s Stephen Curry, who scored 402 three pointers in one season, breaking his own record of 286 three pointers in one season and leading his team to break the 72 win mark of 95-96 Chicago Bulls.

I enjoy a game of basketball every now and then but I am not what you would call a die-hard fan; if I can catch a game, I do; if I can’t, I don’t. However, watching Kobe Bryant’s last game and hearing what was said of him last night as well as catching some of Stephen Curry’s record breaking three-pointers taught me a lesson. I learnt a lesson from basketball and these two individuals and it is this; whatever you do, do with all your heart, or like Confucius said wherever you go, go with all your heart.

These two players demonstrate what it means to strive for excellence always and it is clear that they went into the game of basketball with all their hearts. So, to you my readers, as we say goodbye to Kobe Bryant and continue to watch Steph Curry’s career in the NBA blossom, I invite you to do with all your heart whatever you do and go with all your heart wherever you go!

Meet Your Therapist

Lola Sholagbade received her M.A. in Counseling & Spirituality from the University of Ottawa/ Saint Paul University, Ottawa. She is registered with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario for practice in the area of psychotherapy with adults and couples.
She has several years of experience in the treatment of individuals with a wide range of psychological issues, including: depression, anxiety, trauma, interpersonal related problems, loss and grief. She has a special interest in eating disorders, self-esteem/body image issues as well as approaches to post-traumatic stress disorder. Her attitude towards her clients is characterized by respect and acceptance and she perceives the therapeutic relationship as a mutual and cooperative process.
Ms. Sholagbade values diversity and uses her intercultural competencies to provide a safe and appreciative therapeutic environment. Her primary approach to therapy involves cognitive-behavioural therapy, rational-emotive behaviour therapy as well as object relations therapy.

Lola Sholagbade
Psychotherapist, M.A, R.P, C.C.C.


1What is Psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy is a way to overcome problematic thoughts or behaviours. It addresses personal and interpersonal difficulties and enables an individual, family or couple talk openly and confidentially about their concerns, feelings, thoughts and behaviour with a trained professional.
2Is the service really confidential?
Yes. Everything discussed in therapy is completely confidential with the following exceptions by law:
  • Where you disclose that you are going to kill yourself
  • Where you disclose that you are going to kill/hurt someone else
  • Where you disclose that there are children under the age of 16 being abused
  • Where you disclose that a regulated health care professional is being abusive towards you
  • Where you are involved in a court case and your notes are subpoenaed
3Are the services covered by my health insurance provider?
Psychotherapy by Registered Psychotherapists are increasingly being covered by health insurance providers, however, if “psychotherapy” is not covered, “psychological services” can be covered as the practice is supervised by a Registered Psychologist, Dr. Augustine Meier. Please check with your particular provider and plan for coverage details.
4What is the cost and what methods of payment are acceptable?
Sessions are $135/session. Credit cards (MasterCard, Visa, American Express), Cheques, E-Transfers and Cash are all acceptable forms of payment. Session fees are for 60 minutes = 50 minute session time plus 10 minutes for preparation and documentation of your care. The initial consultation appointment is 90-120 minutes in length to allow for a proper assessment and discussion of your needs.
5Is there telephone and online video counselling?
While face-to-face meeting is best, sometimes circumstances and situations can hinder that. In such situations, therapy can be conducted through Skype, FaceTime or over the phone.